mindset

I’d Rather Celebrate My Birthday at Work

One of my friends recently celebrated her birthday. She’s in her first year of her medicine residency, her intern year which is unbelievably busy, so she had to celebrate her birthday on call. When she told me she was on call for her birthday, I responded with “that’s a bummer…” She quickly responded with, “No, I’m good. I worked really hard to get to this point, so I don’t think it’s a bad way to celebrate my birthday at all!”

Create a daily schedule for wellbeing
how does stress affect your health?
The Problem with Vulnerability
Now Trending:
I'm dR. Cori!


I'm a pharmacist and Master Certified health coach. My mission is simple: cut through the noise, provide expert guidance, and help women take back control of their health.  I help women looking to lose a lot of weight get access to GLP-1 peptide therapy and maximize weight loss. 

hello,

STOP SACRIFICING YOUR HEALTH?

tell me more

more about me →

READY TO 

Dr. Cori teaches the importance of being intentional about the life you want and being gracious

 

One of my friends recently celebrated her birthday. She’s in her first year of her medicine residency, her intern year which is unbelievably busy, so she had to celebrate her birthday on call. When she told me she was on call for her birthday, I responded with “that’s a bummer…” She quickly responded with, “No, I’m good. I worked really hard to get to this point, so I don’t think it’s a bad way to celebrate my birthday at all!”

“I’ll celebrate my birthday at work every year!”

Shame on me, right? I don’t want to work on my birthday, so I assumed why would she. I didn’t mean anything by it, but I projected my feelings on her experience based on my own. And as she is one of my close friends, I know how hard it was for her to get to this point and yet, I still responded based on my own feelings. (I’ve actually talked about my friend’s story here before, so check out that blog post for a little insight into her journey.)

Have you ever done that? Responded to someone else’s situation with how you think they should feel or behave or made an assumption about what they must be feeling?

We all have. And it’s not intentional, it’s just based on our own experience or our belief of what certain situations should look and feel like based on what society says about what we should do or feel.

We have this idea in our head of what success should look like, what we should look like, how we should dress, what kind of car we should drive, how many followers we should have, and even what we should be doing for our birthday.

People have an opinion about everything and if you’re not careful, you will end up living someone else’s life.

Truth be told many of us are in search of something different than where we are today. And we look to other people’s lives for an idea of what we might want for our own. This realization can be hard to accept and it’s hard to acknowledge that we may feel jealousy or inadequacy when compared to someone else’s latest post on social media. No woman really wants to admit to these feelings, and yet we all experience them. I characterize these feelings in The Cycle of Proving™, which I detail in my online program and journal.

I created The Cycle of Proving based on my personal experience and that of so many other moms who are constantly trying to prove to themselves and to the people in their lives, that they are worthy. You see, one human condition that we never outgrow is our desire to be included and our desire for connection. And sometimes that desire adds another layer of stress, both emotional and physical, to our already full lives. Now don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with wanting to be accepted and appreciated, it’s human nature. But sometimes we make decisions to solely satisfy that desire and compromise ourselves in the process.

So to prevent that, I want you to take a few minutes today to write down your ideal day. Think about how you like to spend your time and what makes you feel good. No judgment attached, no words like should, or anything my husband would probably like it if….None of that, just what do you want? This exercise can actually be hard. We never really sit down to think about what we really want. So don’t be surprised if you’re not actually sure. But the more you take time for yourself to write out your thoughts and feelings, the easier this task will be for you.

There is another point I want to make about my friend’s comment on celebrating her birthday. And that is about gratitude. She is unbelievably grateful to be a physician and expresses that every day. She never complains about being on call, spending the night at the hospital or working 16 hours days.

So often we ask for something and yet still complain. We don’t show gratitude for that which we asked for or anything else for that matter. Second task is to write down 10 things you are grateful for. And whenever you think about complaining, pull out those 10 things and remember your gratitude. Try to grow that list daily and show gratitude instead of complaining.

Now your turn, have you done these exercises before? How do you express your gratitude?

 

Talk soon,

+ show Comments
(review Comment Policy)

- Hide Comments

add a comment

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

I'm Dr. Cori, Your  coach + New bff!

I'm a Pharmacist, Life Coach, and Master Certified Health Coach.  I help busy women navigate weight health with confidence.  I teach women how to optimize supplements and GLP-1 therapy as a part of a sustainable, science backed health plan, so they're not just losing weight, but actually transforming their health for the long haul. Whether it's through my Substack, private coaching, or community support, my mission is simple:  cut through the noise, provide expert guidance, and help women take back control of their health. 

more about me

hey there!

UNLOCK MY 4-PART STRATEGY TO LOSE 50+ POUNDS ON A GLP-1 (WITHOUT SKIPPING MEALS, OVEREXERCISING, OR GIVING UP WINE...)

Download my free guide to get the specific steps to losing 50+ pounds.  Even if you're not on GLP-1 therapy yet, this guide will help you shed unwanted pounds.  Drop your email below to start your transformation today!

Struggling to lose weight and thinking about a GLP-1?

Dr. Cori Cooper is a pharmacist, busy mom, and a Master Certified Health Coach specializing in GLP-1 optimization.

DR. CORI COOPER

© Dr. Cori Cooper 2025  |  Design by Tonic  |  Terms Privacy

blog
Purchase gLP-1
GLP-1 Coaching
About
Home

SEND ME A NOTE >

GET ON THE LIST >

@drcoricooper >

follow along 
on Instagram:

contact