I recently listened to a livestream where Lakeisha Michelle spoke and she used the words “rescue your future.” This really stuck out to me and I thought it was a super powerful statement.
I like the urgency it conveyed. So often, we are too passive about our desires and goals. We complain about our spouses, but don’t take a look at our own behavior to see how we might be contributing to the problem. We complain about our jobs, but don’t make the effort to find a job we do enjoy. We complain about our weight, but eat doughnuts and french fries…
You’re likely one decision away from the life you want.
Rescue your future and do something about whatever it is you constantly complain about. Now don’t get me wrong, it’s not easy. There are so many ways we are impacted daily that prevent us from truly living the life that we want. I so often hear from working moms that they don’t pursue their dreams because “they’re moms now”. That should be the last thing that stops you from reaching your goals because you want to be the example for your children. You want your children to believe they can do anything they want, so you have to believe it for yourself too.
Perfect example, I have a friend who is graduating from medical school this week and I remember when she first decided to quit her job. She wasn’t happy and knew it was time to do something about it. She had two mortgages and grown-up bills, but she didn’t let that stop her from going back to school full time. And now here we are at her graduation. Amazing…
I want amazing for you too, so here are three action-oriented tips you can implement now to rescue your future:
1. Decide what you want.
Decide what aspect of your life you so are unhappy with, you are willing to do something about it. It’s easy to complain. Sometimes it can feel like we’re complaining about everything, especially to the person who has to listen to all that. The hard part is deciding what to do about it whatever it is that is making us unhappy. There may be many areas of your life where you are not satisfied, but just pick the one that is suffocating you the most.
This is your first challenge. We usually default to the easiest task as opposed to the one we really need to tackle. So don’t sell yourself short on this first step. Choose something that will make the greatest difference.
2. Make an actionable plan.
If step number one was easy for you, here comes the fun part. Plan it out! I love to plan, I love a good planner, I love to journal, I even published a journal, I mean I literally could write all day. There is so much value in getting things out of your head. In your head, it’s actually hard to see the stepwise approach to your goal or the change you seek in your life. So you quit before you even start because you’re overwhelmed and defeated right from the beginning.
You will have to ask yourself some tough questions and be brutally honest. So what if work is your issue. They give you too much to do, so you never have time with your family. Let’s break that down for a minute….
Technically we should only work 8 hours per day. If you’re like me, you don’t have a set work schedule so you end up working well over 40 hours per week, at night and on the weekends. Who’s fault is that though? Is it your employer’s fault? Let’s analyze this. Were you on Facebook looking at someone else’s photos working on the beach when you should have been working?
You might be stuck in what I call the Cycle of Proving™ and, therefore, making yourself too available. Check out Elements #1 and #2 of The Cycle of Proving™.
Or maybe you’re so frustrated with your job, you do everything else but work. Either way, you’re the problem, not your employer. Hello somebody….
3. Execute the plan.
Usually women make it through steps 1 and 2, but here’s where we get into trouble. We draft these beautiful plans, color-code them, and sometimes even use stickers. And then what? We forget to look at it, we don’t schedule the tasks in our planners or our phones, we use the excuse we’re too busy, and soon enough 6 months have gone by. Or even worse, multiple years go by and we are still exactly where we don’t want to be.
Rescue Your Future!
Don’t get stuck here. If you made it to this step, you’re so close. This is where you might need help. Help from family, from your spouse, from people who get where you are trying to go. Accountability is the single, most important thing I can recommend to successfully execute your plan. If you do nothing else, get an accountability group together and start!
You can join my free Facebook community or join me in my next coaching circle if you need help. Either way, I want to hear from you, post in the blog comments or send me an email.
I’m already excited for you! Does your future need rescuing? Let me know how it felt to implement these three tips!